How to Ask for a Referral: 5 Message Templates That Get Replies

Most people know they should ask for a referral. Fewer know how to ask without sounding desperate, vague or entitled. The good news: a clear request takes about 90 seconds to write and respects the other person's time.

Below are five templates for different situations. If you want to skip the awkward part entirely, you can request referrals on Doogler, where verified employees have already agreed to help.

The anatomy of a good referral request

1. 1A personal opening that shows why you are messaging them.
2. 2The specific role, with the job link or ID.
3. 3Two lines of fit: relevant skills, projects or experience.
4. 4A low-pressure ask: "if you're comfortable referring me".
5. 5Your resume attached or linked, so they do not have to ask.

Template 1: A former colleague

Hi [Name], hope you're doing well! I saw that [Company] is hiring a [Role] ([job link]). Given our time working on [project], I think it could be a great fit, and I've attached my updated resume. If you're comfortable referring me, I'd really appreciate it. Happy to share any details you need. Thanks either way!

Template 2: A college senior or alumnus

Hi [Name], I'm a [batch/branch] graduate from [College] currently preparing for [role type] positions. I noticed you're at [Company] and the [Role] opening ([link]) matches my skills in [skill 1] and [skill 2]. Would you be open to referring me? My resume is attached. Thank you for your time!

Template 3: A stranger on LinkedIn

Strangers are the hardest group. Do not lead with the ask. Start with a connection request that references something real, then make the request in your second message after they accept.

Hi [Name], I've been following [Company]'s work on [topic] and your post on [subject] was helpful. I'm applying for the [Role] position ([link]) and would be grateful for any advice on the team. If it feels like a fit after you've seen my profile, I'd also appreciate a referral, but no pressure at all.

Template 4: Email to a recruiter or hiring manager

Subject: [Role] application, [Your Name] Hi [Name], I'm writing about the [Role] opening. I have [X years/months] of experience in [skill], including [one concrete achievement]. My resume is attached, and I'd welcome a conversation about how I can contribute to the team. Thank you for your consideration.

Template 5: Following up after 5 days

Hi [Name], just a quick follow-up on my earlier message about the [Role] opening. Totally understand if you're busy or it's not possible, and thank you for considering it either way!

Do's and don'ts

• Do keep it under 120 words and mention one specific role.
• Do make it easy to say no. People help more when they do not feel cornered.
• Don't attach a resume with typos or an outdated phone number. Fix that first with our resume tips.
• Don't message more than once a week, and never send the same text to a whole group chat.
• Don't offer or ask for money. Legitimate referral bonuses are paid by the employer.

After you send the message

If you get a reply, move fast: send your resume, the job link and any form your referrer needs. If you do not, follow up once, then move on to the next person. And whichever way it goes, prepare for the interview with a few rounds on our AI mock interview tool.